Like many problems in relationships, self-sabotage can have many causes, but it is often rooted in fear. "Self-sabotage often arises from the need to stay safe and in control," says Rachel Eva Dew, the state-certified doctor in naturopathy, integrative life transformation coach, and co-founder of the integrative telemedicine platform ModiHealth.
“In relationships, self-sabotage is often driven by fear, negative experiences from the past, or even examples of unhealthy relationships or childhood trauma. It is a form of self-protection, but unfortunately, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy that destroys relationships, "says Dew.
Low self-esteem and low self-esteem are two other classic reasons for self-sabotage. If you think bad of yourself, you don't think you deserve a good relationship. (Try these instant confidence boosters.)